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I love our Advantages of Age FB group - Advantages of Age BabyBoomers and Beyond - because the members are daring in terms of where they are willing to go. Whether vulnerability, sexuality or warm humour. This week we travelled from orgasms for us oldsters to Jane Fonda’s brilliant speech as she collected the Life Achievement Award at SAG.
Thanks to Deborah Steel for passionately pointing out 80 year old Susan Weed’s paean to orgasms. Yes and yes and yes.
this celebration of the female orgasm by eighty year old Susun S Weed. It’s clearly worked for her!
Orgasm
The clitoris does not age.
It matures during childhood.
Achieving its fullness by mid-adolescence.
And stays that way.
The clitoris is the "only anti-senescent tissue in the human body."
The penis certainly ages.
But the clitoris doesn't.
Genetic material is quite vulnerable.
Both eggs and sperm are easily damaged by a variety of ordinary things:
> Heat
> Oxygen
> Time (age)
> Solar radiation/sunlight
The older we are, the more our genetic material has endured these assaults.
Eggs get funky.
Sperm get weird.
DNA ain't right.
Genes are in disarray.
Hey, wouldn't it make sense to shut down baby-making?
Women do.
That's menopause.
No more funky eggs.
No more twisted DNA.
No more weird genes.
No more menstruation.
But we retain our orgasmic capacity.
Because it isn't part of reproduction.
For women.
Obviously.
A man releases reproductive material (spermatozoa) when he has an orgasm.
A woman does not ovulate when she has an orgasm.
Orgasm is separate from reproductive capacity in women.
Leaving us to ponder the ever-youthful clitoris.
The magic button for orgasm.
Menopausal years are rarely filled with orgasms.
Libido may disappear . . . temporarily. . .
Vaginal tissues may thin and get dry, making intercourse difficult, painful.
And hot flashes can be triggered by orgasm.
My biggest gripe about my menopause: So unfair to be washed through with a hot flash in the midst of a toe-curling orgasm.
Doesn't make orgasm attractive.
Doesn't make orgasm desirable.
And if orgasm has been initiated by desire fueled by ovulation, well . . .
Goodbye to all that.
No more ovulation.
No more pull to orgasm.
Time to rethink.
Time to recalibrate.
Time to take your orgasm into your own hands.
Time to find what really turns you on.
As menopause gives way to post-menopause, turn your thoughts to orgasm.
If necessary, see it as a task, a responsibility to your health, like brushing your teeth.
Do it.
Even if you don't "feel like it."
Do it often.
Do it regularly.
Orgasm is exercise for your cardio-vascular system.
Orgasm keeps lymphatic fluid flowing all over your body.
Orgasm releases feel-good hormones.
Orgasm supports hormonal health.
Orgasm improves lung capacity.
Orgasm moves energy.
Orgasm improves sleep; by the release of oxytocin and prolactin Orgasm counters pain; by the release of endorphins.
Orgasm reduces stress hormones.
Orgasm strengthens immunity; by increasing the number of white blood cells.Orgasm improves blood flow to every organ.
Orgasm lowers blood pressure.
Orgasm prevents arthritis.
Orgasm nourishes well-being; by the release of dopamine and serotonin.Orgasm improves emotional regulation.
Orgasm opens spirit to Oneness.
Orgasm boosts self-esteem. Orgasm promotes good digestion. Orgasm protects against osteoporosis.
Orgasm — dare I say it? — keeps us young.
"Orgasm releases hormones that have anti-aging effects."
Orgasm puts a bloom in our cheeks.
Orgasm brings a laugh to the heart.
Orgasm connects you to your soul purpose.
Orgasm nourishes the ability to love and cherish life.
Orgasm expands.
Orgasm sparks creativity.
Do I need to explain that male orgasm is different?
So many spiritual paths require men to turn away from orgasm.
So many spiritual teachings warm men against passion, desire, sex.
Pay no attention sisters.
Your orgasm is magic.
Your orgasm is holy.
Your orgasm, especially after menopause, is healing.
Make it a priority.
For yourself.
For your longevity.
For the healing of all suffering.
For the health of Mother Earth.
Your orgasm is sacred.
Your orgasm is in beauty.
Your orgasm is a giveaway dance with the plants.
Your orgasm beats as one with the heartbeat of the earth.
Surrounded by green blessings.
Gratitude
Oh deepest gratitude for orgasms.
Gratitude for the orgasms of every old woman.
Gratitude for my orgasms.
Joy
Joy
Joy
And there were frissons at John Malkovich, 71, in this outfit. ‘Sex on a stick’ declared one of our members. I have to agree.
If any of you have read any of
’s lyrical heart-led pieces about death or finding the fields of kindness in herself, you will love her book Postcards from a Little Life which is out at the end of April. It is a memoir in poems and prose. Caroline would love you to pre-order it and there’s a launch on August 4th in West London.
This is what I’m going to be watching on BBC 4 at 10pm on Monday March 3rd. Mark Baxter, the director, is a member of AofA and Pauline Boty is a Pop Artist who has still to be discovered by many, including me. But Mark knew. ‘Really pleased to finally be able to announce that our film on Pauline Boty, will be shown on BBC Four on March 3rd at 10pm.
As ever these films are all about a massive team effort and this one more than any other I've been involved in.
Too many people to name here now, but they know who they are and without whom...
For now though, make a note in your diary and get ready for the inspiring story of Pauline Boty.’
https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/m0028nyw
5. There was almost universal agreement here. Too many apps. Too much. We agree. This was the post - 'I don’t want to connect my coffee machine to the Wifi network. I don’t want to share the file with OneDrive. I don’t want to download an app to check my car’s fluid levels. I don’t want to scan a QR code to view the restaurant menu. I don’t want to let Google know my location before showing me the search results.
I don’t want to include a Teams link on the calendar invite. I don’t want to pay 50 different monthly subscription fees for all my software. I don’t want to upgrade to TurboTax platinum plus audit protection. I don’t want to install the Webex plugin to join the meeting. I don’t want to share my car’s braking data with the actuaries at State Farm.
I don’t want to text with your AI chatbot. I don’t want to download the Instagram app to look at your picture. I don’t want to type in my email address to view the content on your company’s website. I don’t want text messages with promo codes. I don’t want to leave your company a five-star Google review in exchange for the chance to win a $20 Starbucks gift card.
I don’t want to join your exclusive community in the metaverse. I don’t want AI to help me write my comments on LinkedIn. I don’t even want to be on LinkedIn in the first place.
I just want to pay for a product one time (and only one time), know that it’s going to work flawlessly, press 0 to speak to an operator if I need help, and otherwise be left alone and treated with some small measure of human dignity, if that’s not too much to ask anymore.'
Author: Robert Sterlin
6.When you reach 100 in Barbados, you get a stamp dedicated to you. We think it should happen here.
